Welcome!

This is a new venture.  A place where a seasoned health professional, aging woman, mother, busy woman writes about things she is finding her patients, friends, and most importantly she needed to know but no one really talked about.  (Yes, as women we care about are cholesterol levels and blood pressure, but some days as a woman I feel that without good sex or meaningful relationships why does my cholesterol even matter?

How does the way we were raised affect how we take care of ourselves now?
How does view of self affect healthcare, relationships, and sexual fulfillment?
What are the sexual health concerns of my LGBQT patients and friends?
Why do healthcare professionals at well exams typically not ask about not only the type, but quality of sex for women? Why do they never ask about things like stress incontinence, dysparunia, irritability, or hair growth on my chin?
What are the sexual health goals of single women across the lifespan?
How does culture, race, religion affect women’s sexual experiences?

And even as simple as … how come no one tells me how to find the best lubricant that will not cause yeast infections? Or how can I purchase a great vibrator with sound advice and not depend on Amazon reviews or stepping into a sketchy store to actually look at, take out of the box, or ask questions about such items?

Here we are going to explore these ‘taboo’ topics… hoping to help women and to help healthcare providers start having these conversations with patients…

This will be a place to talk about “The things we don’t talk about”.

I hope you join me.